The first phase of personal style is all about finding objectivity so you can see where you are starting in style. Whether you like to believe it or not, you already have a personal style—you just don’t like it enough to own it.

Four times a year, a super-stylish person takes to the internet to tell us novice fashion and style girlies about the 8–10 must-have investment pieces for the season.

This realization has made me think about how fashion works best when it starts with function. Instead of chasing trends, it’s about asking: what do I need? Take denim, for example. Right now, the trend is “anything but skinny jeans.”

It was the style content, though, that sparked the most joy I’d felt online in a long time. Soon, I found myself consuming style content just as much, if not more, than book content.

The first phase of any personal style journey is unlearning—especially for women. The second phase is experimenting.

For the last twenty years, I’ve tried, without success, to become a “casual” woman. I convinced myself that my style was very laid-back because I’m a mom to a handsome son, and for years, I spent most of my time chasing him around in jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers.

I genuinely believe that the Kibbe System is one of the best tools out there for enhancing personal style! It not only helps you recognize and celebrate the unique beauty of your body but also offers style guidelines tailored to your individual features.

For a long time, I thought I could only wear shades of brown, beige, and gold, convinced that blending into my outfits would minimize my perceived ugliness. My logic was simple: if I wore something pretty, maybe people would see me as pretty, too.